How to Make the Most of 2021 (and Beyond)
Many of us, champagne glasses in hand, toasted 2020 as the year everything was going to change for us. 2020 was going to be our year. But that’s not quite how it turned out. At least, not for many of us.
There is a well-known Taoist story of an old farmer that goes as follows:
One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “Maybe,” replied the old man.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “Maybe,” said the farmer.
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Daniel Mangena, CEO of Dream with Dan, teaches that external circumstances only determine our fate if we let them. While Covid-19 was arguably the worst thing to happen to most of us in our lifetime, Daniel would say, “Maybe.”
For every story of a business going under because of Covid-19, there’s another story of a business flourishing, doing better than ever. No, not the toilet paper or vaccine companies, or unethical businesses that tried to take advantage of their customers, but businesses that had to literally change the way they did business in order to survive.
Businesses such as restaurants, whose primary source of revenue was indoor dining, moved outdoors. And when outdoor dining was subsequently closed down, they made their delivery experience that much more convenient and inviting.
People who made a living speaking on large stages created video-based conference experiences that allowed a much greater and wider audience to attend from their own living rooms.
Major performers performed for smaller, more intimate audiences, and the elusive Broadway ticket was replaced with theater brought directly to our televisions. Family and friends connected more intentionally, and acquaintances that were in our lives only because of convenience, dissipated. Yes, for many this was the year to cocoon, to go back inside, and build back bigger and better.
Mangena teaches how to put down the sad story that there’s something wrong with 2020, and to recognize that in each and every moment, there’s a beautiful opportunity to create something new and wonderful. And it’s not by putting blinders on to the suffering of hundreds of thousands, but about being focused on one thing — the choices we make.
Daniel Mangena teaching to a room of onlookers in San Diego.
Daniel Mangena teaching in San Diego. BARRERA PHOTOGRAPHY
Here’s how we can turn adversity into opportunity.
Step 1. Take Responsibility for Where You Are
First of all, take responsibility for everything in your life.
No matter where we are and what we’re experiencing, put the responsibility where it belongs. Stop blaming Donald Trump, or China, or our skin color, or our gender, or our sexual preferences, or Covid-19, or global warming, or Mom. When we blame others for our conditions, we’re giving them the power over our lives. Take back that power for ourselves.
Even if we live in a situation in which we only have a few choices, we still have a choice, no matter how limited. Because the only people keeping us in our boxes is us.
Yes, there’s systemic racism, and sexism, and many other -ism’s that do exist, just like Covid-19 exists, but we still have a choice. Take responsibility for that choice.
This upsets a lot of people, Mangena warns. People argue that they didn’t choose to be poor, to get molested, to be robbed, to lose their jobs. Though that may be true to their conscious minds, 95% of what we bring into our lives, according to Bruce Lipton, Ph.D. comes from our subconscious minds.
So even if the conscious 5% of our mind is desiring good things in our lives, 95% is working under the surface playing scripts over and over such as, but I’m a woman, but I’m too tall, but I’m too short, but I’m not worthy.
Everything you’re experiencing right now is happening because you are spiritually and emotionally aligned with. What we do follows directly from what we think and believe, and what we think and believe follows directly from what we feel and where our energy and vibration is.
But, because that’s the case, if we start to make a change in how we’re feeling, in our energy and our vibration, we then start to make a change in what we’re thinking and believing. And that makes it infinitely easier for us to start showing up differently and make different choices, which, as a result, leads to a different reality.
Step 2: Know What You Want, As Precisely As Possible
Wanting more money is not enough. If it were, finding a dime in the street would fulfill it. Unless you know exactly what you want, it’s not going to happen.
It’s like getting into your car saying I’m going somewhere. And then just driving. You tell yourself, I can’t wait to get somewhere. Maybe you stop and do some yoga or meditation. Then you get back in your car and continue driving, telling yourself, I’m going somewhere. And then soon enough, you realize you didn’t get anywhere. So you blame the car, or the meditation, or the yoga.
Rather, you need to accept that this is your car, and, unless you tell your car where to go, it will never get there.
Step 3: Match Your Feelings, Beliefs and Actions to What You Want
If there is such a thing as real magic, then this would be the closest thing to a magic formula for creation. If you know what you want, and you can feel it consistently, and believe that it will happen, and your actions follow along with that, there is nothing that you can’t create.
And it doesn’t matter what’s happening in the world outside. It doesn’t matter what’s happening with your mom and dad, your spouse, your girlfriend or boyfriend, your children, or the stock market.
It’s not that complicated. What gets complicated, however, is though we want to feel it, we have trauma. We want to feel it, but we’re up one day and down the next. We want to believe it, but success happens for other people, not us. We want to believe it, but look at all this evidence in our lives that everything always goes wrong. And then we want to do what we need to do, but we’ve got story after story telling us why it won’t work, so we keep acting in the same way and doing the same things. And then we just get the same outcome.
Most of us have reservoirs of stories between where we are and where we want to be in the form of past experiences, improper mirroring, and limiting beliefs.
When a baby enters the world, it doesn’t come with a story of why it can’t have what it wants. On the contrary, it cries and its parents try everything on earth to assuage it. It doesn’t think, well I was born a girl, and that means I’m only going to earn 81.6 cents on the dollar, and well, if I cry too much, I’ll upset these gentle giants who are around me most of the time, and they’ll start to resent me, and stop feeding me, and maybe send me out of this nice comfortable crib I’ve been enjoying, so I won’t cry too loud and draw unwanted attention to myself. No, a baby has no story preventing it from asking for what it wants and getting it — without even speaking. Now, that’s magic!
So how do we get rid of the stories of not being enough? By staying in the present. After all, our stories are either about a past that cannot be changed, or a future that hasn’t happened.
In order to help us stay in the present, Daniel provides a five-minute meditation available here that takes us back into ourselves and the present moment.
Once we’re in the present, we have to ask for what we want, and believe that we are going to get it.
Finally and arguably most importantly, we need to wake up each morning and look for the one action that’s going to move us closer to what we want, and take that action.
And we need to anchor that action and our results in a new feeling and belief by witnessing how the results are showing up into our lives and celebrating it.
Celebrate that you made an uncomfortable phone call, even if the results are different than you desired.
Celebrate the adjustment to your bank balance that gifted you an additional $9.17.
Yes, it’s not the 10K or 20K a month that you want to make, but it’s how it starts. Wishing for 10K a month, and expecting it to land in your bank account in one fell swoop while you’re sleeping is the bailiwick of dreamers, not achievers. Achievers measure, celebrate, and recalibrate when needed in order to reach their destination.
When we spend more of our time consciously choosing where we want our thoughts, beliefs, and actions to be, then our thoughts, beliefs, and actions don’t have the time to be where we don’t want them to be.
It’s not easy to let go of our stories and limiting beliefs. But, even if we don’t really believe that what we want to achieve is possible for us, simply by defining our vision and asking ourselves what, from that vision, can we step into today, will set us in the right direction.
For instance, if we want to make a million dollars but don’t believe it’s possible for us, maybe we can start by asking ourselves what can we do this week to make an extra hundred dollars, or this month to make an extra thousand? Momentum is a marvelous thing, and your mind doesn’t know the difference between manifesting a dollar, or a hundred dollars, or a million.
Step 4: Control What You Can, and Let Go of What You Can’t
Let’s face it, things happen. You decide to take the sailboat to Catalina but the wind has a different agenda. The experienced sailor adjusts her sails in response to the wind in order to still reach her destination. The wind isn’t bad or good. It acts regardless of our feelings about it. It’s what we do with the wind that determines whether we reach our destination. In fact, without the wind, the sailboat wouldn’t even be able to leave the harbor.
Step 5: Consistency is Everything
Once we learn to become present, raise our feelings and vibrations, and from that vantage point, look at our vision and decide what feels like the best next action to take, we can progress toward achieving it, regardless of what’s happening in the world around us.
The final step is a relentless consistency. Every day, preferably more than once a day, intentionally recall what it is you want, raise your feelings, your vibration to match it, engendering the belief that you can achieve it, and take the best next step.
It’s not enough to feel good. All this good feeling behind the wheel of your car, without pressing on the gas, will never drive your car.
And, when you’re on a 2,000-mile road trip, you don’t get to mile marker number 20 and say, that’s it, I give up, I’m never going to get there. Rather, you keep driving toward your destination, taking necessary detours when the road before you gets washed out, or Waze sends you on a wild goose chase.
You wouldn’t pull up the first sprouts of a new planting to see if its roots have taken shape. That kind of impatience kills what you’re trying to create. Rather, celebrate the sprouts and know full well that there are forces in nature that cause things to grow when we plant the right seeds, attend to them, and ultimately get out of the way.
According to Daniel Mangena, with this formula we can achieve anything we want. What, then, do you plan to do with your one wild and precious 2021?
Source : https://www.forbes.com/sites/melaniefine/2021/12/28/instead-of-new-years-resolutions-try-this-instead/?sh=54b04a916975